Who am I as a communicator?

I chose to let my husband and my mother-in-law take the tests to evaluate me as a communicator. My husband and I were within a few points of each other on both the communication anxiety inventory and the verbal aggressiveness scale and the same group for the listening styles profile. I expected this to be the case since we have known each other for 18 years and married 10 years. I have to communicate with him on many different levels about many different topics. It was actually reassuring that he had the same perceptions as I have of myself. My mother-in-law's scores were lower on the first two and the same group on the last one. On the communication anxiety inventory she placed me 12 points lower than I scored myself. This tells me that she perceives me as a confident communicator who is comfortable communicating on all levels. This is not the case in all situation and I often have anxiety about speaking to groups; however, I do try hard not to let others see my anxiety. So, although our scores were vastly different, I am thankful that others perceive me as a confident communicator.

I have learned that even though you have moments when communicating with others can cause you to feel anxious, it is still possible to be an effective, confident communicator.